Habit of Self discipline

Habit of Self discipline

Parent personal integrity check

1. I have been late more than once to a meeting during past month.
2. I have given a false excuse for being absent at work.
3. I think that there is nothing wrong with going on facebook or chatting with my friends during office hours as long as I get my work done.

The habit of self-discipline the first key to developing good work ethic. Student who are intelligent and have good ideas but because of lack of self – discipline, they do not perform according to their potential. They are habitually late and would submit sloppy work. On the other hand, those with very good work habits or “may sipat at tiyaga”, are able to be successful despite their limitations.

Lesson from Parents – Habit of Self Discipline

Marixi Prieto

(Chairperson, Philippine Daily Inquirer, Inc.)

Her father always emphasized that businesses should be self-sustaining, and should not be funded heavily by debt. That kind of conservatism is reflected in the family lifestyle as well. “We come from that school where we don’t look for grander things. We just work hard at what we do. We know we cannot have everything,” she says.

            It was not only her father who influenced her style of business, so did her mother. “My mother ran a fantastic office. She taught us about responsibility and to rely on ourselves.” She was also a stickler for good grooming, such that marixi and her siblings are always well turned out.

How can the Habit of Self Discipline be developed?

Come on time. Say NO to the habit of “Filipino Time”. Teach kids to go to school and to submit requirements on time. Don’t be one of those parents who children use as an excuse – “Sorry for being late. My mom took so long in dressing up!”

Dress for success. Make good grooming and neatness a habit. There is no need to always have new clothes or be fashionable. But children should be asked to dress appropriately and always be well groomed.

Do your work regardless of how you feel about it. This attitude is important if you want your child to learn to be professional. Do not encourage the habit of giving EXCUSES. As professional adults, we should model going to work every morning, morning, regardless of whether we feel sleepy, lazy or tired. Do not allow your child to use the “I don’t fell well” excuse for not going to school or doing his or her work.

Do your work even when no one is looking. Children with no self-discipline will behave differently when there is no teacher or parent around. It is a joy to enter a preschool classroom and see children busy working in different learning areas, even when a teacher is not present. This means that hey have internalized the self – discipline to do their work and are no doing it simply to please their teacher, or out of fear of consequences. As a parent, teaching our kids “to choose to do what is right even when no one is looking” is a worthwhile investment because we cannot always be with them and they need to make right decisions even without us. Setting clear expectations helps children meet these even if you are not around. “Do your homework on your own and I will check it when I get home” helps your child acquire self discipline so that when she grows up she will not be one of those workers who will epitomize the saying: “Whan the cat is away, the mouse will play”.

Work Ethics

Work Ethics

Character count in business

I cannot imagine raising entrepreneurs without having to tackle ethics. I feel that teaching children right from wrong is even more important than teaching them reading and math. An entrepreneurial mind without a proper moral compass can be dangerous. Just think of all the intelligent Filipino businessmen and politicians who have misused funds for self gain. We don’t want our children to grow up that way.

            Our children are the next generation of Filipinos. What children perceive to be right and wrong often mirrors parental and societal values. How kids make decisions in ethical situations will determine how they will make decisions as adults. Taking candy that is not theirs will predispose them to pilfer money or company supplies. Borrowing without permission is the first step to tolerance for kiting money. Copying someone else’s work will be the beginning of a life of piracy. Tolerance for unethical acts in childhood or during the teenage years will eventually be manifested in their workplace ethics.

Changing the face of business in the Philippines:

Teaching work ethics to the next generation

The annual political and economic risk consultancy(PERC) poll ranked the Philippine as the fourth most corrupt country in the southeast Asia(2010)

            If we want to see a better Philippine through entrepreneurship and leadership, we need to start in our homes, with our own children. Eradicating corruption in the Philippines is in the hands of every parent and teacher.

Choose to do what is right

            This is advocacy when speaking with our students. Expect them to choose to do what is right even when no one is looking. I think parents should model and embrace this positive expectation because the formation of ethical values begins at home. We need to have a stronger voice as parents because we are going against the popular culture.

It seems that their American counterparts are indicative of the popular culture among the Filipino youth. An alarming number of them admitted to lying, cheating and stealing based on the 2008 Report Card on the Ethics of American Youth. The results of the survey showed that young people recognize that ethics and character are important on both a personal level and in business, but they express very cynical attitudes about whether a person can be ethical and still be successful. This same view is somewhat shared by Filipino youth in their tolerance for corrupt practices in the country.

Parents are the first teachers of work ethics. Our children learn from what we say and do. The decisions that we make every day are their living examples. Before we talk about how to teach our children work ethics, I would like you to reflect on your personal integrity. They say that actions speak louder than words. Unless you are aware of your own mindset, attitudes, values and behavior, you may unwittingly be raising unethical children thought your example.

Children Learn

Children Learn What They Live

If the children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If the children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If the children live with fear, they learn to apprehensive.

If the children live with pity, they learn to sorry for themselves.

If the children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If the children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If the children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If the children live with encouragement, they learn to confidence.

If the children live with tolerance, they learn to patience.

If the children live with praise, they learn to appreciation.

If the children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If the children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If the children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If the children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If the children live with honesty, they learn to truthfulness.

If the children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If the children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves.

If the children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live

Excepted from the book Hyperlinkhttp://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/external-search/1021145980-9000959?keyword=CHILDREN+LEARN+WHAT+THEY$tag=drchadwickshurth&Search=Go+To+Amaxon CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE by Dorothy law nolte and Rochel Harris

PARENT PERSONAL INTEGRITY CHECK

1. These is no point in following rules because other people do not.
2. it is not wrong to tell a small lie, exaggerate or cheat occasionally to help my self or other succeed.
3. I will earn money first and I will think about doing good work later.
4. people who bend rules or do unethical activities will become successful faster
5. I am willing to do unethical work to secure my child’s future.

Small lessons can make a big difference

In developing our children’s sense of ethics. As parents, our own actions and attitudes influence the formation of good work ethics among our children. Inasmuch as children learn through example, a positive approach to teaching children good work ethics is to instill in them 6 Habit of Good Work Ethics. Since a “habit” is a disposition of mind and character, good habits will guide their thoughts, behavior and decisions. We need to be consistent in our positive example and expectations of good work ethics in our children because habits are formed through frequent repetition.

           

            As you read the tips on helping our children learn the habits of good work ethics, begin with the parent personal integrity check. Hopefully, it will help you to better guide your children.

6 Habits of Good Work Ethics

1. Self – Discipline

2. Respect

3. Responsibility and Accountability

4. Collaboration

5. Hard Work and Excellence

6. Integrity and Honesty

Experience

Experience:

Allow your child to practice and volunteer to gain experience

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: first by Reflection, which is noblest: second, by Imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.”

           

There are three ways to gain valuable experience.

Volunteerism. Get your child into volunteer program hands on manila is a great organization that allows you and your child to get involved in the following areas: Arts, Health and Nutrition, Sport and Recreation, Caring for the Community and the Earth, Caring for children and the Elderly. You can also get them involved in environmental volunteerism through Haribon, which has many activities for children and families, or Greenpeace.

On – the – Job Training.

Children into programs to give them a feel of working. Some restaurants such as Fridays and McDonalds have programs for kids. Your teen can get a summer job in a place that interests him.

Apprenticeship – let your child experience the real world before he joins it. One of our 4^th year high school students was deciding whether to take up medicine. The summer before his last year in high school, he asked a doctor who was a family friend if he could volunteer in his clinic. This enable him to make an informed decision for college. Other students can volunteer in preschools if they want to go into education; in barangay, if they want to go into public service; in stores, if they want to go into retail. They can also become assistants to photographers or events organizers.

Benjamin Liuson, President,

The Generic Pharmacy

“My brother and I grew up in a traditional Chinese family. From high school to college, we helped in our family business, which were involve in making eyeglasses and picture frames. I used to check the totals and did the math. Instead of getting a salary, I offered to sell products and get a commission. I preferred earning money that way.”

*The Generic Pharmacy currently has 880 stores, which the company achieve three years after it started franchising. By the end of 2010. the company project to have 1,000 stores. It will then be the biggest drugstore chain in the country, according to Mr. Luison.

ASK YOUR MENTOR BOX

The Philippine Center for Entrepreneurship – Go Negosyo offers free mentoring services to aspiring and starting entrepreneurs. They have available “Angelpreneurs” or Entrepreneurship educators and mentors from different fields of expertise in entrepreneurship, such as:

*Mindset and Character Building/ Formation/Leadership

* Spotting Business Opportunities

*Product Development and Innovation

*Marketing

*Operations and Productivity

*Financial Literacy

*Franchising

ASK A MENTOR ABOUT DIFFERENT TOPIC LIKE:

*Food

*Agri Business

*Fashion

*Beauty and wellness

*Retail

*Social Entrepreneurship

*Arts and Crafts

*Multimedia

*Science and Technology

*Sports

*Education

Go Negosyo Angelpreneurs and Mentor can be easily reached through the Go Negosyo Website(www.gonegosyo.net) or through feedback@gonegosyo.net.

Experts

Experts:

Seek experts to mentor your child learn from the experiences and mistakes of others…

People who know their craft and have established their own business are invaluable resources. In the popular TV show the apprentice, American billionaire Donald Trump is view as the ultimate mentor and guru of aspiring businessmen.

            One of the biggest challenges that parents face is not knowing how to help their child. This is where mentors come in.

            Let me tell you about three of our youth entrepreneurs in MI high school and the lesson they have learned from mentors.

Maki Baka:

Filipino and Japanese rolled into one

Love for Japanese food and patriotism inspired this group of teens to come up with fusion cuisine on the run, classmate and teachers served as their test market. Proud of their fusion concept, they sought the mentorship of Ricky Laudico of Mr. Kurosawa. They had very good concepts, but did not have a strong culinary background and missed out on the most important aspect of a great maki rice.

           

Lesson from the mentor: never stop improving the quality of your product. This will help keep your customers loyal

Laila: life in Literature and Art

Raw talent was the capital for this business venture. Behind it is a group of naturally talented teens, whose love for manga and drawing inspired them to publish their own graphic novel. They loved what they did but did not know how to publish or to make money out of this hobby. Enter Budgett Tan, founder of Alamat and a creator of comic books. He pointed them in the right direction, which was knowing their market. Budget told them that their product had a niche market, and unless they knew the market well, they will not have readership.

Lesson from the mentor:

Know your customers; they are the lifeblood of your business.

Pulse Radio: Teen Radio

Armed with love for music and solid ideas for programming, a group of teenagers wanted to start a teen radio station. But the teeners had questions and the answer could not be found in books: what did it rally take to put together radio program? How do you get funding? Where do you get sponsors? Michael Halili, executive producer of NU 107, generously invited them to observe a radio program at work, guided them on the feasibility of their ideas and finally helped them set realistic goals.

Lesson from the mentor:

Set realistic goals, but don’t let go of your dream.

Lesson from brother

Ben Chan: Chairman, Suyen Corporation *Beach

“Brother Carlos was instrumental in our venture into china. I consider him a visionary for having been able to successfully establish his business there. He started out early and was a head of everybody else when no one would take risks in a country that years later would become a major economic superpower. Today, his brand Oishi is an Established leader in snack foods, with a distribution and supply chain that covers the entire country.”

            Carlos was able to help me nurture my business instincts through his leadership and foresight. He led by example and made me realize the vast opportunities that lay a head. He made it easier for me to identify potential growth areas for Beach.

Exposure:

Exposure:

Expose your child to good role models let the be your child’s teacher…

Possibilities are limited only by what we are exposed to. The eureka moment of, that’s easy! I can do that! Happens when expose our children to good role models. When have the MI Mentorship program that regularly exposes students to mentors. One time, I was listening to a jewelry designer talk about her craft. The girl next tome, who was fond of trinkets, was so excited and watched the demonstration eagerly. She whispered to me, I thought I was going to be a doctor, but now I know I also want to be a jeweler. Do you think it’s possible to be a doctor-jeweler?

Parent preneur tips

Expose children to experience aligned with their interests and intelligences. Tap friends and relatives who share the same interests with your child(e.g. an uncle who is good at graphic design can teach your child about art). Turn your home into a learning ground. If your husband likes tinkering with cars ask your child to help him. If you like gardening or making crafts, show your child your tools and projects. If you have an elder child or nephew who is very good at designing web pages, make your child observe him. Encourage your child to be an apprentice. Expose your child to different places. Even if you do not have money to spare for travel, expose them to new experiences that don’t really cost much. Go to parks and playgrounds. Museums are great places to visit. Even window shopping with the right mindset can open your child to possibilities. Expose your child to business.

Edgar “Injap” Sia

(CEO, Mang Inasal)

“During my elementary years, I would help out in the family business by manning the cash register in our store in Roxas City(Capiz). I also re packed sugar, noodles and other stuff sold in the store. It was like I was immersed in a business environment. It was a good exposure.”

“Mang Inasal, the Philippine fastest growing barbeque fast food chain was established on December 12, 2003 in Iloilo City. Currently, it has 268 branches nationwide and employs 8,000 people. Man Inasal is doing its share in alleviating the country’s unemployment problems. Jollibee Food Corp. recently bought 70% of the company.

Mentorship

Mentorship

Mentorship: inspiration and instruction

“I hear…I forgot…I see…

And I remember I do…

And I understand”

-Ancient Chinese Proverb-

But the teachers whose goal was to share everything they knew joined me in my journey as a learner. They inspired and guided me and gave me the tolls to make myself a better person and professional. They taught me the trick of the trade, knowledge that is not learned from textbooks.

            Growing up in the Philippine predisposed me to crab mentality knowledge is important and not willingly shared with others. Because they may become better than you. Just like crabs, people pull each other down because they are unwilling to allow someone to get ahead unhealthy competition prevent people from collaborating, helping each other improve and celebrating the accomplishment of others.

            I was fortunate to have been exposed to good model in schools and at home. Through my mentors. I was expose to adapt a different view on learning and leading. Being around experts. I realized that successful people are the first to recognize that knowledge is limitless and that nothing is lost when you help others. This has influenced me greatly in creating a culture of empowerment, genuine respect and collaboration in the organization that I founded.

            My on experience with setting up a school reflected the lessons I learned from my mentors. Because I chose to pioneer the multiple intelligence school in the country, I wanted the school culture to be reflective of the advocacy of MI. believing that every person is intelligent in his own way has allowed me to embrace a culture of respect, both among students and the faculty.

            Schools tend to encourage competition instead of collaboration, thinking that intelligence is only for a few. MI allows everyone to contribute because we have our own strengths. We work together for a common goal or vision instead of competing against each other. I personally believe in a mentorship model wherein someone who has more knowledge or skills helps make a difference in the life o another person by nurturing and empowering him. Teachers go the extra mile for students, and children go the extra mile to help those who have difficulty, our of empathy and genuine caring.

            At MI, we embrace very high ethical standards because we believe in the relationship of trust that comes with the mentorship arrangement. H have spoken to many frustrated school owners who tell me that their problem are teacher who do mediocre work and leave after learning from them. Because of this frustration and fear, they do not bother to develop their teachers.

            It is true that you run the risk of being copied or used by teachers who just want to learn and leave. However, as the school’s leader, I believe that the merits of going out of my way to encourage and equip my teachers to develop their full potential is most beneficial to the life of our organization. It is my hope that through mentorship, a teacher or a child who enters our school will leave a better person.

What mentorship opportunities can I give my child

“my child has great ideas, how can I help him?” the answer is try to find mentors for your child. It is amazing how many ideas die on the drawing board simply because of poor or non existent mentoring. Schools train children for a get a job instead of a make a job mentality. So children who think of novel ideas end up frustrated because they simply do not know how to translate these into reality.

            This is why we decided to pioneer an entrepreneurship program in both elementary and high school levels. The core of our program is mentorship. You might wonder, why would someone who is successful go out of his way to teach others the secret to his success? The answer is simple he possesses the success attitude and mindset that makes him a positive and giving individual.

3 ways to give child the

Opportunity for mentorship

                                                Exposure

Mentorship = Experts

                        Experience

Swimming - Freelance Illustrator

33. Swimming Instructor
What will i be doing?
        Teaching student how to swim

What will i need to start?
        Proper training on swimming techniques and access to a pool

Who will my customer be?
       People of all ages, but particularly kids who want to learn how to swim. Swimming lesson are in particular demand in summer

How much should i charge
       P1,800 per person for two hours a day for eight straight weekends. Group rates are lower than personalized, a PE instructor.

How much will i make?
      Eighty percent of your fee is your to keep if you have a pool at home; the rest goes to pool maintenance. Otherwise 20 to 40 percent of your free will go to pool rental, say Marcelo.


34. Freelance Illustrator
What will i be doing?
        Providing artwork and creative illustrations for marketing and promotional collateral and even websites. You may also do comics, animation, and commercials.

What will i need to start?
        A computer with an image editing program(such as Adobe Photoshop) and scanner. You'll also need pencils, paper, paint and water colors. If you don't know how, you may study drawing by attending art workshops or attending art schools

Who will my customer be?
        Editors and art directors publications, design studios, and ad agencies. You may also do artwork for other people needing your services for their personal or their company's web pages

How much should i charge?
        about P1,000 per illustration in magazine, say Sonny Ramirez, a freelance illustrator for the pas six years. But you may charge as little as P100 for a small black and white artwork to P20,000 fro a whose set of painted pieces for a book

How much will i make?
       P4,000 to P6,000 a month if you get five commissions. Computer generated work will jack up your power bill, while handrendered illustrations will cost your paper and colors. Ideally, one project should pay for your expense for the month, but he warned that you'll get paid only after two or three months for your work.